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I just left you hanging there didn't I?

I put the number 8 there and then just didn't add anything and that's just pure mean.

I mean, really, had I just stopped at 7 you could've told yourself that I had finished but when I leave the number 8 just lying there - it screams, "There's more but you are gonna have to waaaaaiiiiiiit.

Sorry about that.
My bad.

And now on to the rest of the list.

8. Pay close attention to the financial side of the relationship. And I don't mean the big "he's a saver, I'm a spender" kind of issues. Pay attention to how he views your spending. Does he try to talk you out of inconsequential purchases because you don't "need" it?
And conversely, does he buy things without even getting your opinion or telling you that he's planning a larger purchase? Now this may not apply if you are just dating but if you are in any way combining finances any purchase over say $100 should, at the very least, be mentioned. And unless you (as a couple) are on some sort of strict budget for a good reason an impulse buy under $10 is not something that should
have to be defended.

9. Does he sometimes act like your parent? Pointing out how you are not responsible while highlighting how
responsible he is? Obviously this does not apply if you actually are irresponsible and those of you who
are -you know it. But if he makes you feel like you are not living up to his standards and if standards seem a little too make-believe chances they are....for example, no 12 year old boy on this planet cuts the grass or picks up his laundry completely on his own
and unasked by his parents and anyone who tells you that that's what they did as a 12 year old has memory issues.

10. Does he compliment you without being prompted? If you come out of the bedroom on your way out for the evening does he tell you you look nice? smell nice? anything?

11. Does he have any knowledge as to how women operate physically? Does he understand that at certain times of the month you may be a little or a lot more
sensitive/crabby/quick to anger? Is he willing to factor this in when responding to you or does he just
ask why you're being such a bitch? Think hard about this one...Because if he can't be supportive through
some PMS what the hell is he going to do when menopause hits.

12. Is he willing to listen to your concerns about the relationship? If you tell him that there is something
that he is or isn't doing does he make it a point scoring operation and come up with the last 20 things YOU did WRONG or is he willing to listen and adjust accordingly? Does he come to you with the things that you are doing or not doing and in a calm way allow you
to review your actions and make adjustments?

All right.
That's all I can come up with right now but I reserve the right to add to this list whenever.

5:31 p.m. - 2007-11-09

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