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Boyfriend Checklist

So, I've been thinking a lot about what kind of advice someone might give a young girl headed out into the relationship arena.

You know, there are a bajillion books on how to fix your relationship, how to get him to marry you, how to divorce him...blah-di-blah-blah.

But there is really no down-home common sense self-help books that tell you what checklist to go by.

Here is my opinion:

(and keep in mind I have to leave for work in 20 minutes so I may have to continue later..sorry)

1. Try to take some time to look at your boyfriend with an unbiased eye. Ask your girlfriends what they honestly think of him...and you with him. Do NOT get angry with them if they tell you he has some faults. THAT is what you are looking for and then you can decide if these are faults you can live with.

2. Does he think the things that are important to you are actually important? This can go two ways...either he actually thinks they are important or he gives them import because they are meaningful to you. Either way is good. If he doesn't show much interest in something you take a big interest in that might be a flag.

3. Does he make you feel that no matter what, you come first? Do you feel that if you called him home from a night out with the boys he would come? Now, listen carefully, I'm not saying you SHOULD call him and he SHOULD come running. What I'm saying is ..do you FEEL like you are THAT important to him? "Cause if you feel it you will have no need to call him. AND I'm not saying that he should stand at your elbow waiting for your every need to be voiced but if he can convey his love for you on a level that you feel it even when he's not around then he will have no need to be at your beck and call 24/7.

4. Does he celebrate you and understand that you may want to celebrate him? Is your birthday important to him? Does he put effort and thought into your special day? I did NOT say money. I said effort and thought. Stopping at the drugstore for a card on the way home from work does NOT constitute effort and thought. Is he gracious when given a gift from you? Does he appreciate the attention you give him on his special day?

5. The one you love should boost you up - there should never be any tearing down. If in the heat of the argument mean words are said they should be apologized for...and then NEVER repeated in the same vein.

6. Does he let you dream? Even if the dream is unrealistic? Does he get excited about plans for your future even if it's something you may not ever do for any one of a number of reasons.

7. Does he make you laugh?

12:09 p.m. - 2007-11-07

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